These are beautiful questions from Vanessa Rochelle Lewis:
It's not about whether I love you or not.
Does the way I love you feel good to you?
Does the way I love you help make the difficult parts of life feel easier to navigate? Does the way I love you set you free? Does the way I love you facilitate or expedite your healing? Does the way I love you help you grow in a direction that you respect? Does the way I love you inspire your creativity? Does the way I love you create enough space for you to have your own autonomy and plenty of love time with yourself and others? Does the way I love you make you float a little when we're not together? Does the way I love you support you in feeling safe enough to be vulnerable and courageous with me? Does the way I love you feel good even when times are hard? Does the way I love you hold space for you to know you can make mistakes and resolutions? Does the way I love you feel resilient and sustainable?
Does the way I love you feed your erotic and sensual desires? Does the way I love you inspire whimsy and tenderness? Does the way I love you help you to imagine y/our future with hope and excitement? Does the way that I love you provide new opportunities and experiences? Does the way I love you leave your friends/loved ones congratulatory and happy for you? Does the way I love allow you to be your full, authentic, and evolving self? Does the way I love you create space for disagreement and healthy conflict? Does the way I love you hold space for the nuance of honesty? Does the way I love leave you feeling loved in the way you want to feel loved? Does the way I love you look like making adjustments when things aren't serving both of us? Does the way I love you honor your dignity, heritage, identity, and self-respect? Does the way that I love you aide you in being in the sort of relationship you want to be in?
